A person with a healthy self-esteem knows how to stand up for themselves. However, when you are in a relationship with a Wolf, this may not be the wisest thing to do. Wolves are master manipulators and masters at creating the image they want other's to see. When situations arise where you are getting the blame for something you didn't do, or your intentions are being misconstrued by a Wolf, take a step back before you react.
First, is your heart right before God in what you were doing. Take a moment to pray about the situation and see if their is any wrong doing on your part. If there is, seek forgiveness from God and from the person you wronged. It is our responsibility to be reconciled with others as much as it is in our power to do so.
However, if you are right before God and you were doing what He had directed you to do and you are still being accused and condemned...you are in good company. Remember, the Pharisees were relentless with Jesus. Or how about Elijah, Queen Jezebel was relentless in her pursuit to get rid of him. Wolves don't like anything or anyone who exposes their selfish motives, even if it is just mere kindness of another.
Psalms 37:6 LB) says "Your innocence will be clear to everyone. He will vindicate you with the blazing light of justice shining down as from the noonday sun." Who defends you? Remember God will defend you! Psalms 37:7 goes a step further and says, "Rest in the Lord; wait patiently for him to act. Don't be envious of evil men who prosper." God knows there is a time when it will appear like the Wolf is prospering, but He wants us to be patient and rest in him. He knows! And, when He is readly, He vindicates with the blazing light of the noontime sun! Psalms 37:8 says while you are waiting to "Stop your anger! Turn off your wrath. Don't fret and worry-it only leads to harm." Clearly, God has other ways of dealing with self-absorbed Wolves that are beyond our understanding. We don't need to worry. We don't need to complain. We don't need to defend. We need to be careful that our reaction isn't in anger, as this will only lead to harm. We are told to rest and wait!
What is happening right now with the Wolf in your life where you need to rest and wait? God will intervene in His time and His way!
Thank you for your wonderful work! I have written about my personal experience with such a person. It will be published soon. My hope is that it will give hope to many. You can follow my blog at: http://theblessingsofachallengingmarriage.blogspot.com/2012_02_01_archive.html
ReplyDeleteGod bless! Christian Gottlieb