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This blog is for those suffering from living in a marriage with a spouse who is self-absorbed. Ranging from mere selfishness to the personality disorder of Narcissism, society is replete with this characteristic. A marriage suffering from self-absorption is filled with confusion, unmet needs, loneliness, questions, and resentment. For the Christian committed to a covenant marriage, this is acutely painful as he or she begins to feel trapped in his or her own vows. The reality is there are faithful followers of Christ who are married to people who wear the mask of Christianity because it makes them look good, while their motives are self-centered rather than Christ-centered. Biblical prinicples and truths still apply, but the spouse of a Narcissist has these truths bashed over their head. There is hope, because Jesus also provided insight into dealing with Pharisees who bashed "truths" over other's heads.

Monday, January 10, 2011

Real Housewives of the Bible: Lack of Contentment Can Lead to Self-Absorption

Two women...Rachel and Leah. One man...Jacob. Jacob loved Rachel more, but she was unable to bear and children. Leah produced one son after another. Each wife wanted what the other wife had. Leah wanted Jacob's love. Rachel wanted Jacob's son.

Remember, Rachel was Jacob's first love, his first choice. He worked seven years to marry her, and then an additional seven years after Rachel's father deceived him into marrying Leah. Rachel had beauty that most women could only hope for. Yet it wasn't enough. She wasn't content! She wanted more!

Leah on the other hand produced one son after another, which was a great triumph in Old Testament times. Her fertility obviously brought Jacob to her bed many nights. She taunted Rachel with her favor!

Neither housewife was content with their situation. They wanted things to be different. I wonder what would have happen if Rachel had just relaxed! If she had just enjoyed the relationship she had with Jacob and been grateful for her gift of great beauty. I wonder what would have happen if Leah had been humble and not taunted Leah. What kind of a relationship might Leah and Rachel had? What kind of influence might they have had on their sons?

Sadly, competition, deception, and pride became a family legacy. When Rachel finally did bear a son named Joseph, Leah's sons became very jealous of the attention and favor he received from his father and had him sold into slavery. They told Jacob that his son Joseph had died.

When we loose sight of being content, it brings out selfish behavior. We start focusing on me, me, me and loose sight of others. Well actually we don't loose sight of others, we focus on what others have that we don't have. But, God calls us an unconditional love in 1st Corinthians 13. Unselfish love cares more for others than self. Unselfish love doesn't want what it doesn't have. Unselfish love isnt's always me first. Unselfish love doesn't revel when others grovel...Rather it looks for the best and trusts God always.

Where in your life aren't you content? What kind of selfishness is rising to the surface. Step back and ask God to see what is best in your life and trust Him!

Stay tuned in...we have one last episode in this first season of Real Housewives of the Bible, Mary the mother of Jesus.

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